Tips on delayed ejaculation

When we talk about problems with ejaculation, the first thing that comes to mind is premature ejaculation, because it is the most well-known problem. But we have to say that delayed ejaculation is also a problem that many men can suffer from. And we are going to talk about that topic throughout the article. We want you to know more and if you or your partner suffers from this problem, you can find a solution to the problem so you can once again enjoy good sexuality as a couple.

What is delayed ejaculation?

This problem is sometimes called delayed ejaculation. It consists of the fact that it takes a long time for the man to ejaculate, which causes sexual relations to become too long and consequently the pleasure is lost. When a man suffers from delayed ejaculation, not only does it take him a while to ejaculate, but sometimes the desired ejaculation may not occur. According to sexologists, men obtain excitement and pleasure, but they do not reach the level necessary to reach orgasm. And as you can imagine, if orgasm is not achieved, ejaculation may not occur. According to experts, the problem of ejaculation usually occurs during penetration. This means that many men who cannot ejaculate through penetration can do so through masturbation or even oral stimulation.

How long should it take to ejaculate?

There is no definitive answer because every man and moment is different. As experts say, the average time to ejaculate is usually 15 to 30 minutes. Of course, the time may be longer or shorter, the important thing is that both parties are satisfied. The problem usually comes when ejaculation takes more than half an hour to arrive. In that case both parties tend to get tired and that usually translates into dissatisfaction.

Tips to solve premature ejaculation

After knowing its meaning, now we are going to show you a list of tips through which it will be a little easier for you to deal with premature ejaculation.
  • Communication with your partner: communication is super important in any couple. If you notice that it takes you a long time to ejaculate and your partner is not satisfied, today is a good day to talk about it. Don't try to delay the issue. It is something that exists and must be talked about as soon as possible.
  • Masturbation: Sexologists often recommend that men opt for controlled masturbation. Through masturbation, men learn to better control ejaculation. If the problem is linked to stress or anxiety, masturbation can solve it in a significant percentage of cases.
  • Use sex toys: Sex toys can be a great way to improve stimulation and increase arousal. Try different toys and techniques to find the one that works best for you.
  • Do exercises: exercises to strengthen the pelvic muscles can be of great help. To strengthen the muscles, it may be a good option to opt for Kegel exercises. If you practice them correctly it will be a little easier for you to deal with the problem.
  • Go to therapy: it may seem like an excessive measure, but in many cases the problem can be solved thanks to therapy. The expert has the knowledge and tools to find the source that is causing the problem and thus solve it. There is no need to be ashamed, it is their job and they know very well what needs to be done to ensure that ejaculation is adequate again. Without a doubt, putting yourself in the hands of professionals is always the best option.
As our massage experts tell us, delayed ejaculation is a common and treatable condition. With time and practice, you can improve your ability to control ejaculation and fully enjoy sex.

How does delayed ejaculation affect the couple?

It all depends on the couple, but what we can say is that normally the relationship as a couple is damaged. The problem can get worse when neither of the two parties dares to take the step in communication. As they say, the problem can become entrenched. If that happens, when one of the two parties wants to remedy it, it may be too late. On many occasions, a man suffers because he knows that he cannot satisfy his partner and that makes him not have a good time. On other occasions, the woman is the one who suffers because she feels that she is not capable of seducing her partner and that puts her in a bad situation. What is clear is that normally both parties suffer, even if they try to hide it. As sexologists tell us, we should not make the mistake of trying to delay the problem. The biggest mistake that many couples make is trying to pretend that delayed ejaculation does not exist and, consequently, sexual relations are pleasurable. The problem exists and for that reason we must talk about it to avoid greater evils. And as we have mentioned previously, if necessary, go to professionals to solve it as soon as possible. Of course, the two affected parties must do their part to get relations back to how they were at the beginning. If measures are not taken, the couple will gradually reduce the number of weekly sexual encounters. As they are less pleasurable, the desire to have relationships will decrease. And as happens in the vast majority of couples, when sexual relations decrease, the level of strengthening of the couple also decreases. If you really love the person next to you, don't wait until it's too late. Talk to her right now and try to find a solution as a couple. It will make you stronger and everything will surely return to normal.
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